September has quickly come to an end. We are still in Minnesota which means the nights are getting cooler and the leaves are starting to turn some magnificent colors. Harvests are in full swing. Fall has always been one of my favorite seasons. All of the summer boat traffic is off of the lakes making them glass calm, except for the occasional duck or loon that floats by. In the sky you can hear a couple of geese fly by, honking some encouragement to each other.
However this fall is different. August 26th we got a call from Lisa's father. He was calling from the Intensive Care Unit in Fargo. Apparently he had fallen and his momentum carried him head first into a tree. It sounds like a funny joke, I know, but when Lisa got to the hospital and was told how extensive his injuries were, the laughing stopped. Possibly blood on the brain, 2 cracked cervical vertebrae in his neck, a cracked vertebrae in his upper back and a punctured lung. We couldn't believe it. All from a fall. He was in a neck brace and would need surgery.
The surgery was put on hold for a week because of the blood thinners he takes. They had to wait for them to get out of his system. So he spent a week flat on his back. He couldn't even see the TV. They say that being on your back for that long can do funny things to your mind. LaRay was no different. He was seeing things on the ceiling that weren't there. Trying to touch things in the air that weren't there. One day they asked him if he knew Lisa and he said that he thinks that he met her before but wasn't sure.
We would call the hospital every morning and then stop by for and hour or two each day before work. Each day he slowly digressed. We eventually quit our temporary jobs to devote as much time with him as we could.
To make a long heart-wrenching story short. LaRay was in the ICU for 19 days, battling to survive. But going into this, he had many strikes against him. Such as his age, his diabetes, his life long addiction to cigarettes and alcohol and his poor circulation. The hospital called a "Care Meeting" one day to discuss his treatment options. It hit us like a sledgehammer to find out that LaRay would never go home. That is not what we were expecting. That is not what he would want either.
So taking his wishes to heart we had to make the horrible decision to remove him from life support and to let his body do what it would naturally do. We never thought we would be put in a position to make a decision like that. Never would we have thought that this is how he would go. When they took him off of the ventilator, it was just a matter of minutes before he succumbed to the inevitable. I was there with Lisa and Heidi till the very end. It was very sad to see the life leave his body. Something that we won't forget for a very long time.
Now we are left to pick up the pieces and to to take care of what he left behind. Our lives have literally changed for us for the time being. We will have to see how this plays out.
What an utter tragedy. I'm so sorry for you, Lisa, and the family.ReplyDelete
It has been a very difficult time for us but each day it is getting better. Thanks.Delete
I am so so sorry that happened. It's scary how things can change in an instant. Although you were faced with many tough decisions there is not a doubt in my mind that you made them with his best interests at heart. Please pass along my love to Lisa and again I am so sorry for your lossReplyDelete
Thank you. It is tough to be put in that situation. there are always the "what ifs".Delete
Bill and I are so sorry for your loss! What a tragic story! Life can certainly be cruel sometimes, ask us how we know. Our wish is that with each passing day, happy memories of your Dad will replace the horrible sadness you now feel. Please reach out if you need ANYTHING! A shoulder to cry on or vent to. With love and hugs! KellyReplyDelete
So very sorry for this huge loss and these very tough times. Life is not fair, please take care of yourselves....even if you have to break it down to one hour at a time.ReplyDelete
Thank you. Each day gets better. Now to to wade thru the legal quagmire.ReplyDelete
The unexpected and tragic episode resulting in such a loss must still be shocking to you. I am so sorry for the loss you've both suffered.ReplyDelete
Thank you. The doctors said that if this happened to a 25 year old, it would just have been a 6 month inconvenience.Delete
How unbelievable. So sorry for Lisa and family. Can't imagine having to make a decision like that. Our sincerest condolences and hugs.ReplyDelete
Thank you. It has been very difficult for all of us.Delete
So sorry that this happened, Dino and Lisa. Diana and I hope each new day brings you peace.ReplyDelete
Thank you. Every day gets better. It still feels unreal that he is gone.Delete
We have been thinking of you two and what you have been going through. Those ar decisions no one should ever have to make.ReplyDelete
Thank you. I was telling Lisa that people should leave this decision with an enemy. It would be easier for them to make it.Delete